hmm?

I am not sure if Spaniards really know how to deal with death or what to say. No one REALLY knows what to say but here are a few examples;

I´m so sorry for you loss.
Sorry to hear about your grandma.
Thinking of you and your family...

I mean, it´s not rocket science folks.

This is what I´m hearing here (Translation)
¨And your grandma?¨

And this is from people who know the situtation. Isn´t that just the weirdest thing to say? The first time I heard it I was just so taken abback I didn´t know what to say...¨Um, she´s dead in a coffin buried in the ground?¨ I said...¨I went to her funeral.¨ Because I didn´t know what else to say!!!

Is it just me or is that just the dumbest freaking stupidest thing to say?